- Britney Spears & Jason Alexander married… 55 hours
- Carmen Electra & Dennis Rodman…. 9 days
- Mario Lopez & Ali Landry... 2 weeks
- Drew Barrymore & Tom Green … 6 months (her second marriage the 1st lasted 6 weeks)
- Dennis Hopper 7 Michelle Phillips… 8 days
- Elizabeth Taylor… married 8 times
- Mickey Rooney… 8 times
- Zsa Za Gabor… 9 times
Certainly we could find plenty of same sex couples who get together and break up in incredibly short periods of time, but with all of the above going on can people really say that it’s the concept of same-sex marriage that is destroying the institution of marriage? Well, yes of course there are people who can say that. I’m not that naive.
Not too long ago Rick Perry, from Texas, was urging conservatives to try and repeal the 2009 New Hampshire law allowing same sex marriage because he supports the “sanctity of traditional marriage.” Well good for Rick Perry, I support the sanctity of traditional marriage as well. So much so that I think we should outlaw divorce. You would be hard pressed to show me some statistical evidence that said because CT, NY, MA, NH, VT, IA, and Washington DC allow same sex couples to get married that it somehow resulted in the failure of Kim Kardashian’s marriage.
Regardless of if you are married or not, try this on for size. Close your eyes and think about why it is that you want(ed) to get married in the 1st place. Forget the religious aspects associated with the word. Why did/do you want to get married?
To share with the world:
This is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
This is the person who I choose to put before all others.
This is the person who makes me want to be a better person and helps be to be that person.
This is the person who I want to build a life with, someone who fills the gaps in my soul. Gaps I didn’t even know where there until they were filled.
This is the person that I love.
I also understand that there are people out there that say Civil Unions allow that same thing. The fact is they don’t, and they don’t because “Marriage” is understood as being all of the things I listed and more. Yes, technically “Marriage” is just a word, but the word has meaning and weight. With that one word other people understand the seriousness of your commitment to each other and all that intrinsically implies. They know the rights and responsibilities that come with being married and yes for some it legitimizes the seriousness of the relationship.
Maybe I’m wrong, in which case I’ll apologize right now to Kim K. “I am so very sorry that my marriage destroyed the sanctity of your “traditional” marriage”, but at the same time I will continue to work at making my non-traditional marriage work. It’s important to me.
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